Wednesday, September 9, 2009

Worst reasons to get married to

Everybody's doing it!" That was the first phenomenon I witnessed. We all went to high school together; we all went to college at the same time; lets all get married at the same time. I don't want to be the one left out, much as I didn't want to be the one without a date for the Senior Prom. Peer pressure; falling behind; "I'm not where I should be"; it all equals a big mistake."Age traits" was another ill-advised reason I saw. A man about 27 would be taken with a girl about 19 because she worshipped the ground he walked on. She could only see a person who was perfect because he was so much more mature than the "men close to her age." He was deeply in love until the first time a family crisis came up and she was of no value when it came to being a support system; people have a tendency to act their age under pressure.
Another problem was that of marrying someone for fear they may marry someone else if they weren't "snapped up". In that same vein, just agreeing to get married because a person is "tired of waiting", or, feeling that nobody better is going to come along anyway. Of course most people know that marrying for money is a bad idea, although, I've heard more than one of my friends say "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich person as a poor person".Getting married because you're pregnant is bad for all concerned, including the baby. Conversely, getting married because the body clock is ticking is not a good thing. When parents get involved, whether it is pushing to marry a certain person (and they do have their favorites); or, you are expected to marry within a certain social strata, it is a problem. I know some very, very miserable people who limited their choices to people who were of a certain career choice or heritage.

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