SWALI LA WKEND

Swali langu linasema hivi; kipi kizuri kati ya mume mwenye pesa na mali ambaye ana muda mwingi wa kufuatilia biashara zake kuliko kuwa karibu na familia na Mume maskini ila mwenye muda mwingi wa kukaa na familia?

Msaada wenu ni wa muhimu sana kwangu.

MUME BORA NA MZURI NI YUPI?

1. Be Her Sounding Board
When your wife tells you her problems, she isn't necessarily looking for a problem solver. She wants someone to listen to her and empathize with what's going on in her life.
A husband who hears about his wife's problems instinctively wants to come to the rescue. But most of the time, this isn't what your wife is looking for. You need to fill the role more of a psychologist than that of a troubleshooter. Listen to her problems; show concern for those problems; show that you have empathy; but don't always reply with "here's what you need to do."
When your wife comes to you with her problems, she isn't looking for you to be her lawyer. And she certainly doesn't need you to be her football coach, giving her fiery motivational speeches about how to beat her problem. She wants a counsellor, to listen to her problems and help her deal with their emotional impact.

2. Show Respect
A good exercise for every husband is to try to show your wife respect. This dovetails with my previous point, but goes beyond that specific situation.
A major part of showing respect is to avoid the trap of being hyper-critical.

3. Avoid Judgment
When you live with someone every day, it's hard not to build up resentments and overanalyze your partner's every move. But no one is going to stand up to that level of scrutiny. Try not to sweat the little stuff, because it has a way of becoming big rather quickly. If you judge every action or opinion your wife has, that's going to come through in your words and actions.
Your wife is different from you. Of course she isn't going to perceive things the way you do. She's had different life experiences than you, not the least of which is the general experience of living life as a woman. She won't always like what you like. She won't behave like a man does. Apart from sexual needs and having children, that's one of the reasons men get into a relationship. We feel the need for a woman's companionship.

4. Don't Bring Your Own Issues Into the Marriage
As I mentioned earlier, being in a marriage is being part of a team. This means you sometimes have to put your wants or needs second to those of the team.
All of us have emotional baggage. When we marry, we bring that emotional baggage into the marriage. But when your wife comes to you for support, that isn't the time to open up that emotional baggage. There are times when you can unload this stuff on your wife, but not when she needs your support.

5. Know When to Make it About You
Of course, it can't always be about her or the marriage. There are times when your needs should be met. That's the definition of a give-and-take partnership, which is what a marriage should be about.
Tell her how you feel, but don't put her in a defensive position. This means you describe to her how something she does affects you without making your feelings accusatory.

6. Be Affectionate
I know guys don't like being cuddly. Being affectionate after sex takes time and it doesn't make us feel manly, but women need affection sometimes. If you only give them that stuff to get to bed, your wife is going to notice and think it's insincere.
Of course, this goes beyond the bedroom. If you show your wife spontaneous affection occasionally, it reassures her of the love bond.

Mengine ongezea kwa kuweka comments...Cheers!!!!!!!!!

5 Reasons Why Couples Cheat

1. Lack of Communication
Sometimes a couple lacks the communication skills necessary to voice how they feel when something is missing from their relationship. Perhaps it's the sex or the time spent together. Whatever the reason, something is missing and is making one person in the relationship unhappy. Because of this, trust and honesty are both sacrificed and before you know it, one partner is confessing they were unfaithful.Being incapable of expressing the problems you see with your relationship is problematic and is a main factor that leads to dishonesty and cheating.
2. Different Views
When a couple has differing perspectives concerning what kind of relationship they ultimately want, problems might be inevitable in the long run. The fact that one partner might be less serious and committed to the relationship at stake could be a valid indicator of cheating tendencies.In reality, if someone doesn't have the will to commit to a relationship, they shouldn't be in one. Such feelings only lead to cheating and heartbreak.
3. Lack of Effort
While a couple might have had an unbelievable romance and a relationship built on trust and honestly, it has the potential to falter. It takes time and effort to make a relationship work, and when the effort in a relationship is unbalanced and is on one partner's behalf to rekindle the romance, cheating might be an outcome.It is crucial for both partners to provide the same amount of dedication in order for the relationship to be successful. If this doesn't happen, one might cheat to find the romance they secretly desire.
4. Revenge
If a relationship is built on hostility and hurtful revenge, heartache is likely to follow. When a partner is unfaithful, it might cause the other partner to be unfaithful too. Unfortunately, a snowball effect might be created and suddenly the relationship has become two individuals trying to get back at one another for creating such complications. Of course this doesn't accomplish anything and is a waste of time for both involved.
5. State of Mind
Sometimes alcohol is involved in the cheating process and a partner might do something they would likely not do if they were in the right state of mind. However, this is not an excuse. If this situation could be used as an excuse, one can only imagine the lack of trust and commitment in relationships.However intoxicated an individual might be, they should still think before they act and in this case, they should still care about the one they are with. If they can't do this then they should avoid drinking and making such regrettable decisions.

Style gani inafaa wakati wa kufanya mapenzi na yenye mvuto zaidi?

1. Missionary position. Making love while lying on your back with a man on top?

2. Woman on top?

3. Doggy style? Penetrating from behind.

4. Standing, while u hold each other?

Love Questions

There was this guy who loved two gals at the same time but he didn't know which one he loved more. Someone taught him.

Ask yourself this question and answer it honestly :
"When you are happy, which gal would you want to share your happiness with?" The one you think of is someone you love.
Ask yourself another question and answer it honestly :
"When you are sad, which gal you want to share your burden with?" The one you think of is also someone you love.
If you think of the same gal when you are happy & sad, that's the most perfect. But if you don't think of the same gal, I would advise you to chose the one you are willing to share your sadness with.
In life, there are more sorrows than happiness. There are too many people that u meet that u can share your happiness with, not necessary your lover.
If you live your life happily, you can also enjoy it alone.
In sadness, however, there are not many people willing to share your burden with you. If you are willing to tell someone your happiness, I am sure that person has got to be someone close & an understanding person to you.
But it shouldn't stop there. If that person only thinks of you when she is happy, but looks for someone else when she is sad, this lover is too unstable, she doesn't treat you as someone she can spend the rest of her life with.
Of course, I will be very happy if I am the first person to share her happiness. But, if she is sad, I will be too willing to stay by her side & ease her pain. Only then, will I believe that I hold a very important position in her heart.
If you are sad, who comes to your mind first?

SWALI KWA WADAU

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