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I've been married almost 40 years with two grown children. I consider myself a Christian. My husband has not had sex with me for over 16 years. Prior to that it was seldom, maybe 1/2 dozen times a year. It was by his choice as I have always loved sex.
In desperation, almost 15 years ago, I became involved with a married man whose situation was quite similiar. We took care of each others sexual needs but neither ever wanted a divorce from their spouses.
Except for the total lack of sex my husband and I get along reasonable well and neither have any interest in a divorce. Even prior to the start of my affair he had serious ED problems but has refused, and still refuses, to see a dr., try Viagra, etc. He absolutely refuses any kind of counseling. He is a porn addict, always has been, although I did not know this before the marriage.
Six months ago the guilt caught up with me and I ended the affair but had a talk with my husband, asking him to see a dr. try Viagra and that I did not want to live as brother and sister. He said ok but virtually nothing has happened. I still do not want a divorce but the total lack of sex is catching up with me.
Has God decided to punish me and make me go the rest of my life with no sex? Other than a divorce is there no middle ground? I am thinking about starting up the affair again but am afraid of the guilt that will go with it. I cannot even get my husband to attempt to satisfy me with his hands, mouth, sex toys, etc. so its either the affair or divorce. I'm looking for a choice other than divorce that will satify my sex needs and will not kill me with that awful guilt. Why is it so wrong to enjoy sex?
There are other ways to satisfy without the mediocre penetration, like with one's mouth, hands, feet, and sex toys. That's why we shouldn't let it get in the way of our sexual relationship.
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